I need help. Im terrified of...??
Question: When I cheered I fell from a stunt. Ive been scared to go up now. I really need help because I love cheering. And suggestions? And I fell on my head (on concrete) trying to do a back-hand-spring and now Im scared to do that to. Im cpable...Im just really scared!! I need help. I want to try out again and Im one of the smallest so I would have to do those things. Help me PLEASE!!!
Answers: I would start off slowly and take baby steps. First go back to cheering but don't do any stunts. Then do a stunt that's near the ground. Then go a little higher, then higher until you get your confidence back. These things take time and you need to overcome your fear one little baby step at a time. Never force it, only do it when you're ready.
See a hypnotherapist.
Try working out in a gym, with a protective mat and for the time being wear a small helmet. Always practice with a coach (preferably) or with a partner. Keep practicing, taking all necessary safety precautions.
Usually the best way to get over it is to JUST DO IT.....if you know you can do it, then you will. But if you make yourself scared then you will never do it again.
Just take a deep breath and go for it.
just do it if you off a horse you get right back on
You probably have a case of post traumatic stress syndrome and reason for it! I'd be scared too. You need to see a doctor or other healthcare professional..do it, please.
The Death of Abnormal Fear
Many people are excessively afraid of something or other. Fear is an essential cause of all psychological diseases. Abnormal fear manifests itself as excessive expenditure in military activities and plans, ethnic conflict, political unrest, and social disorder. If there were no fear, people would forget how to love, especially themselves. On the contrary, when there is too much fear, people happen to love themselves abnormally excessively, with the result that they also happen to hate others beyond the limit.
Let me tell you that you need to be surprised a lot now because I'm going to tell you something which nobody has ever told you: Fear is one of the consequences of an individual's notion of the difference between themselves and others . You're afraid of an unknown person, who you think may be your enemy, but are you afraid of your brothers or sisters or friends or near relatives? You would certainly not be afraid of your father or brother or sister if he or she were a big police officer, would you? If you're afraid of them, then that's because you admire and obey them, and hence fear that you might offend them or make them dissatisfied by your conduct. This is not fear, but obedience and politeness. Fear expresses itself in various forms which you must know in order to overcome it. And it can be managed only by acquiring the correct knowledge about it and by some meditation. Please note that it can't be removed by efforts. How can you remove something that does not exist at all? It exists only because you think it does. That's why you're not afraid in deep sleep or when you're unconscious. Surprisingly, fear is the most powerful medicine that can ever be found in the human mind. That's because it's fear that can cause the most fatal psychological diseases. So let's see how we can discover the best medicine for the mind and heal ourselves.
Fear can be of two types:
the fear of losing something and
the fear of getting something.
There can be no other types of fear. Let us consider some examples:
● the fear of losing security
● the fear of losing money
● the fear of losing relatives
● the fear of losing wealth
● the fear of losing an opportunity
● the fear of losing convenience
● the fear of losing advantage
● the fear of losing love
● the fear of losing fame
● the fear of losing any possession or anything that one loves
● the fear of losing life
● the fear of getting an injury
● the fear of getting a negative profit
● the fear of getting disgrace
● the fear of getting an enemy
● the fear of getting a problem
● the fear of getting anything that one doesn't like
● the fear of 'getting' death
If we think holistically, we see that all instances of fear can be identified as the fear of either losing or getting something. In other words, any instance of the fear of losing can be alternatively viewed as an instance of the fear of getting something. For example, the fear of losing money is nothing but the fear of getting a negative profit or loss.
Again, any instance of fear of losing (or getting) can also be translated as the sum of two or more other instances of the fear of losing (or getting). For example, the fear of losing money means the sum of the fear of losing power plus the fear of losing convenience plus the fear of losing security, etc.
My friend, let me encourage you by saying that what you're going to read will act as the best medicine on your mind. If you know something properly, that knowledge will make you so familiar with the topic that it will lose all its negativity and alien characteristics.
Why are you afraid when you're ill? If you're confident that you'll not die of this disease, then you're afraid because you'll lose health or the opportunity to do some activities or duties. You're afraid also because you'll have to lose the ease of mind as well as the body. But when you fear that this disease may or will cause your death, you're afraid of losing your life.
You'll always have some sort of fear until you meet the severest possible fear that is, the fear of losing your life. And it's only when you encounter the fear of losing life that you be gin to think about what life is. Again, life can have no meaning unless it has a clear purpose. So you can never find the root of any fear unless you have searched for the mission of life and you can never get rid of the fear unless you have discovered it for yourself.
A simple question will help you a lot in perceiving the importance of relating the issue of fear to your concept of death. Just consider this question: Why am I afraid of death and not of sleep? What is my concept of sleep that makes me trust sleep and not death?
You may think that at this point it's going to be philosophical, but actually it's not. It's simply the psychology of humans. A soldier in the war knows why they're in the war, so they don't resent being there or having to do what they are doing. It's no philosophy, though for some people some philosophical analysis may be required to arrive at the point.
Any mission that you have in your life necessitates you to get involved in or create or invite a certain set of phenomena or situations. The totality of these psychological intentions and interactions with what you call the external reality is your life. In this life of yours there are others , true, but you must also bear in mind that it is you who have defined what other means and identified who the others are and why. Your concept of others determines how the others will interact with your concept of I and we . Your psychology has defined your philosophy and your philosophy has differentiated yourself from others . Your losing or getting is possible only because you have the concept of others that will give you something or take something from you.
If you are the body, the members of your family except you are others to you. If you are your family, the people of other families are others to you. If you are a Christian, the adherents of other religious doctrines are others to you. In fact, all these dimensions of the I and the other are simultaneously true. But, unfortunately, for most of us, there is, and needs to be, an other after the last analysis. But if your identification of yourself creates no residual others at last, no matter how many levels of others you happen to find in between, you'll have no fear and no feeling of dissatisfaction and meaninglessness in life.
The label we is nothing but the psychological expansion of the label I . When, during a war between your country and another, you utter the sentence We are right in fighting against them , the we you use refers to the entire nation you belong to. In the same way you can show yourself the different functional levels of the I and We . Humans are political beings in relation to the use of these words. But, hopefully, a persistent I within a universal We has the potential to assure more peace than discord. So, in order to be really happy, you must find around yourself a Universal We in which your I will feel secure, important, and active.
Are you afraid of a thief's stealing your car, for example? Then think twice the second time differently. Have you ever been afraid that your brother might steal it? If yes, then you're not confident about whether he's your brother. If no, then try thinking about what makes you consider that the potential thief is not your brother. You may argue that brotherhood is a two-way relationship and even if I consider somebody my brother but he doesn't consider me so, my concept of brother will not be very active in me. Relevant argument, but invalid. Love is always one-way. If you want to loves somebody, you can do that even if they don’t love you. However, if you desire that they also love you, then you must allow them to taste you through aloofness or misconduct or selfishness. Even the brothers and sisters born of the same parents wouldn't love one another if they couldn't fight with or hate one another up to a certain stage of their personality development.
Are you afraid that death will come to you? This fear can make you exceptionally wise. As long as life's mission is not fulfilled, why should you die?
Nobody should die after a long time. That's because death is part of our every-day life. By way of fulfilling the mission of life, we're dying every moment. By way of fulfilling the mission of life, we're enjoying or suffering something. In fact, we're doing both. When we eat something, hunger dies. When we love somebody, ego dies. Death is always there.
If that is the case, then why do I fear an animal called Death expected to come from another planet? Can't I consider it one of my nearest relatives? If many things of the world can receive my love, why should Death be deprived?
But fear will not forgive you. As long as you aren't fulfilling your mission on earth, Death will not come to you, only his shadow will, that is fear, by which it will remind you again and again of what you've forgotten. So never forget Death if you're afraid. For fear is the shadow of Death. If you are tired of life, this shadow will give you shelter. If you remember Death every time you are afraid, you'll meet Death thousands of times in a month. In this process He'll be your best friend. Then a time will come when you'll no longer be afraid of him. Rather, you'll miss him if he doesn't see you every moment. And then he'll never come to you from a distant place. He'll always live with you. And probably you'll not die.
Do not wait for death. Only the transient dies. Somehow or other you must help Death to do his business and receive the profits yourself.
The human nature is such that humans do not fear anything except fear itself. If you accept fear and get into it, your mind will be fear-proof.
Being afraid of fear is a contradiction in itself. Rather, it's the fact that humans enjoy fear. If it were not so, children wouldn't love horror stories.
Only the right fear can heal the mind and remove other types of fear. That's the fear of doing something harmful to others; the fear of not being meaningful in the dealings of life; the fear of loving the transient; the fear of not being useful to others; the fear of being unethical; the fear of not believing that the entire universe, seen and unseen, known and unknown, past present and future, is somehow or other a unified whole and that I have my own responsibility for every part of it. If the right fear occupies the right place in the mind, then, even if there happens to be a feeling of uneasiness in the beginning, sometimes culminating in a kind of temporary psychological disease, a time will soon come when the mind will escape all limitations and fear. Then only love and compassion will abide in it. Then the true enjoyment will start.
Fear is a function of the individual's genetic make-up, the environment they were brought up in, their personal experiences and knowledge, their values and past actions, and their concept of life. But, hopefully, all types of fear can be reset and thus removed. However, it will take only months for some while two or three years for those who are sensitive to fear of one kind or other on the verge of a chronic disease. The process is very simple and proven. The first patient on whom I have applied the technique is myself.
When I was a child I was so timid that I even couldn't go to toilet alone at night. Every night I had dreams full of horror. I had acrophobia (fear of high places) and agoraphobia (fear of crowds and open spaces). I grew up with all these diseases only to discover later on that all my family members had some disease of this kind. In a word, mine is a timid family. I had to face the most embarrassing situation when my heart rate went up abnormally. I could easily feel that I shouldn't get so much afraid of such a simple thing but I couldn't help it. Finding no other way, I used to put my right hand on my chest, in the hope of saving the heart from going out of 'control'. However, for reasons unknown to me till then, this technique worked. It was not until my initiation into intense spiritual practice that I found a solution to the problem. However, the disease culminated in a kind of psychosis when, as a result of my spiritual practice, I began to be aware of the fact that I was going to get transformed little by little, probably into a dead body. The remembrance of death and my past life brought about a vortex of diverse psychological forces in my mind. In the beginning the solution became more unbearable to me than any events that I had so long considered problems. I can't even tell how many times I had to visit the heart hospitals and how much money I spent, only to learn every time that I had no heart problem. Now I know that if it hadn't been for my desire to seek the truth through the practice of Sufism, I wouldn't have taken so long a time to recover. For the deeper I wanted to reach in the mind, the more fear I had to encounter. Even my physical health degenerated into such a dilapidated condition that a part of my left leg seemed to have died and remained so for more than three years. During four to five years, I continuously had the feeling of being physically burned inside and clear symptoms of the sensation sprouted all over my eyes, face, and body. But, surprisingly, there was no pathological trace of any problem whatever, except repeated infection in the throat. As the mind became hyperactive due to the transforming spiritual practice, there arose the problem of nausea, acidity, constipation, and a quake-like spasm in the body time and again. Every second I had to remember death, even in my sleep and dreams. Sleep evaporated from my eyes and head. However, after a certain stage of the problems, the reverse condition prevailed for some time excessive sleep and a feeling of exhaustion.
I could realize that there was a drastic change in my mind but there was no concomitant change in my lifestyle, a mismatch that created the problems. Then I started eating less, sleeping less, and talking less and doing all types of work to keep the mind balanced. Now I'm grateful to God that He gave me the excessive fear. If I had been bold, I might have done things destructive to others and myself. The fire that was in me was supposed to burn me only, and that it has been doing, but it might have burned the whole society if I hadn't happened to suppress it because of too much fear.
Being the youngest son of a Sufi master of a small, poor village in Bangladesh, I was taught to love all and never to hate any specific human being for anything whatever. I was taught to speak well and behave well with people of other religions, especially Hindus, as there were no people of any other religious group around there. Father used to say, Whether you are a Muslim will be clear from how you behave with the non-Muslims. Though we have been observing numerous events both on the national and the international levels that clearly arouse doubt about the Islam of the people concerned, I never saw any exception in his life. Nearly half of the people of the village he lived in were Hindus, and all Hindus loved and trusted him so much that very few Muslims those of a religious leader sort liked him, if at all.
Because I was taught to tolerate others' misbehavior, and also to love their good behavior, I had to suppress my own feelings, however angry or sad I was. And this responsibility would have seemed to be an unbearable burden on me if I hadn't been timid. Time and again the timidity verged on cowardice, I admit, but this weakness also proved to be a boon. Still now I don't have any personal enemy.
Your fear can save you. It can also make you bold. If you fear the right thing, then other wrong things will fear you and admire you. Do the following analytical meditation.
Analytical Meditation
Say to yourself:
Why has life been given to me?
It has been given to me so that I can overcome death.
And why has death been made for me? It has been made for me so that I can overcome the limitations of life.
Life is defined by death and death by life.
One is the raw material for the other.
I will not wait for any death coming in search of me speedily like a selective Search Engine on the Internet.
I've already embraced it because I can't live if I don't do so.
I'm not afraid of losing anything because nothing is greater than I am.
I'm not obsessed by the thought of getting anything, for my mind is not a vacuum that needs to be filled up by material things.
If I do want anything, then I want happiness and sorrows, poverty and affluence, problems and solutions, disease and health power and weakness.
I want happiness for others and sorrows for me,
so that eventually they share my sorrows with me and sell their happiness to me in exchange for my sorrows.
I want poverty
If I don't find myself inflicted by it then I'll find one who is in it and rescue that person.
I'm not afraid to fight the battle of life.
If I've nothing to fight against then I'm not important at all.
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Answers: I would start off slowly and take baby steps. First go back to cheering but don't do any stunts. Then do a stunt that's near the ground. Then go a little higher, then higher until you get your confidence back. These things take time and you need to overcome your fear one little baby step at a time. Never force it, only do it when you're ready.
See a hypnotherapist.
Try working out in a gym, with a protective mat and for the time being wear a small helmet. Always practice with a coach (preferably) or with a partner. Keep practicing, taking all necessary safety precautions.
Usually the best way to get over it is to JUST DO IT.....if you know you can do it, then you will. But if you make yourself scared then you will never do it again.
Just take a deep breath and go for it.
just do it if you off a horse you get right back on
You probably have a case of post traumatic stress syndrome and reason for it! I'd be scared too. You need to see a doctor or other healthcare professional..do it, please.
The Death of Abnormal Fear
Many people are excessively afraid of something or other. Fear is an essential cause of all psychological diseases. Abnormal fear manifests itself as excessive expenditure in military activities and plans, ethnic conflict, political unrest, and social disorder. If there were no fear, people would forget how to love, especially themselves. On the contrary, when there is too much fear, people happen to love themselves abnormally excessively, with the result that they also happen to hate others beyond the limit.
Let me tell you that you need to be surprised a lot now because I'm going to tell you something which nobody has ever told you: Fear is one of the consequences of an individual's notion of the difference between themselves and others . You're afraid of an unknown person, who you think may be your enemy, but are you afraid of your brothers or sisters or friends or near relatives? You would certainly not be afraid of your father or brother or sister if he or she were a big police officer, would you? If you're afraid of them, then that's because you admire and obey them, and hence fear that you might offend them or make them dissatisfied by your conduct. This is not fear, but obedience and politeness. Fear expresses itself in various forms which you must know in order to overcome it. And it can be managed only by acquiring the correct knowledge about it and by some meditation. Please note that it can't be removed by efforts. How can you remove something that does not exist at all? It exists only because you think it does. That's why you're not afraid in deep sleep or when you're unconscious. Surprisingly, fear is the most powerful medicine that can ever be found in the human mind. That's because it's fear that can cause the most fatal psychological diseases. So let's see how we can discover the best medicine for the mind and heal ourselves.
Fear can be of two types:
the fear of losing something and
the fear of getting something.
There can be no other types of fear. Let us consider some examples:
● the fear of losing security
● the fear of losing money
● the fear of losing relatives
● the fear of losing wealth
● the fear of losing an opportunity
● the fear of losing convenience
● the fear of losing advantage
● the fear of losing love
● the fear of losing fame
● the fear of losing any possession or anything that one loves
● the fear of losing life
● the fear of getting an injury
● the fear of getting a negative profit
● the fear of getting disgrace
● the fear of getting an enemy
● the fear of getting a problem
● the fear of getting anything that one doesn't like
● the fear of 'getting' death
If we think holistically, we see that all instances of fear can be identified as the fear of either losing or getting something. In other words, any instance of the fear of losing can be alternatively viewed as an instance of the fear of getting something. For example, the fear of losing money is nothing but the fear of getting a negative profit or loss.
Again, any instance of fear of losing (or getting) can also be translated as the sum of two or more other instances of the fear of losing (or getting). For example, the fear of losing money means the sum of the fear of losing power plus the fear of losing convenience plus the fear of losing security, etc.
My friend, let me encourage you by saying that what you're going to read will act as the best medicine on your mind. If you know something properly, that knowledge will make you so familiar with the topic that it will lose all its negativity and alien characteristics.
Why are you afraid when you're ill? If you're confident that you'll not die of this disease, then you're afraid because you'll lose health or the opportunity to do some activities or duties. You're afraid also because you'll have to lose the ease of mind as well as the body. But when you fear that this disease may or will cause your death, you're afraid of losing your life.
You'll always have some sort of fear until you meet the severest possible fear that is, the fear of losing your life. And it's only when you encounter the fear of losing life that you be gin to think about what life is. Again, life can have no meaning unless it has a clear purpose. So you can never find the root of any fear unless you have searched for the mission of life and you can never get rid of the fear unless you have discovered it for yourself.
A simple question will help you a lot in perceiving the importance of relating the issue of fear to your concept of death. Just consider this question: Why am I afraid of death and not of sleep? What is my concept of sleep that makes me trust sleep and not death?
You may think that at this point it's going to be philosophical, but actually it's not. It's simply the psychology of humans. A soldier in the war knows why they're in the war, so they don't resent being there or having to do what they are doing. It's no philosophy, though for some people some philosophical analysis may be required to arrive at the point.
Any mission that you have in your life necessitates you to get involved in or create or invite a certain set of phenomena or situations. The totality of these psychological intentions and interactions with what you call the external reality is your life. In this life of yours there are others , true, but you must also bear in mind that it is you who have defined what other means and identified who the others are and why. Your concept of others determines how the others will interact with your concept of I and we . Your psychology has defined your philosophy and your philosophy has differentiated yourself from others . Your losing or getting is possible only because you have the concept of others that will give you something or take something from you.
If you are the body, the members of your family except you are others to you. If you are your family, the people of other families are others to you. If you are a Christian, the adherents of other religious doctrines are others to you. In fact, all these dimensions of the I and the other are simultaneously true. But, unfortunately, for most of us, there is, and needs to be, an other after the last analysis. But if your identification of yourself creates no residual others at last, no matter how many levels of others you happen to find in between, you'll have no fear and no feeling of dissatisfaction and meaninglessness in life.
The label we is nothing but the psychological expansion of the label I . When, during a war between your country and another, you utter the sentence We are right in fighting against them , the we you use refers to the entire nation you belong to. In the same way you can show yourself the different functional levels of the I and We . Humans are political beings in relation to the use of these words. But, hopefully, a persistent I within a universal We has the potential to assure more peace than discord. So, in order to be really happy, you must find around yourself a Universal We in which your I will feel secure, important, and active.
Are you afraid of a thief's stealing your car, for example? Then think twice the second time differently. Have you ever been afraid that your brother might steal it? If yes, then you're not confident about whether he's your brother. If no, then try thinking about what makes you consider that the potential thief is not your brother. You may argue that brotherhood is a two-way relationship and even if I consider somebody my brother but he doesn't consider me so, my concept of brother will not be very active in me. Relevant argument, but invalid. Love is always one-way. If you want to loves somebody, you can do that even if they don’t love you. However, if you desire that they also love you, then you must allow them to taste you through aloofness or misconduct or selfishness. Even the brothers and sisters born of the same parents wouldn't love one another if they couldn't fight with or hate one another up to a certain stage of their personality development.
Are you afraid that death will come to you? This fear can make you exceptionally wise. As long as life's mission is not fulfilled, why should you die?
Nobody should die after a long time. That's because death is part of our every-day life. By way of fulfilling the mission of life, we're dying every moment. By way of fulfilling the mission of life, we're enjoying or suffering something. In fact, we're doing both. When we eat something, hunger dies. When we love somebody, ego dies. Death is always there.
If that is the case, then why do I fear an animal called Death expected to come from another planet? Can't I consider it one of my nearest relatives? If many things of the world can receive my love, why should Death be deprived?
But fear will not forgive you. As long as you aren't fulfilling your mission on earth, Death will not come to you, only his shadow will, that is fear, by which it will remind you again and again of what you've forgotten. So never forget Death if you're afraid. For fear is the shadow of Death. If you are tired of life, this shadow will give you shelter. If you remember Death every time you are afraid, you'll meet Death thousands of times in a month. In this process He'll be your best friend. Then a time will come when you'll no longer be afraid of him. Rather, you'll miss him if he doesn't see you every moment. And then he'll never come to you from a distant place. He'll always live with you. And probably you'll not die.
Do not wait for death. Only the transient dies. Somehow or other you must help Death to do his business and receive the profits yourself.
The human nature is such that humans do not fear anything except fear itself. If you accept fear and get into it, your mind will be fear-proof.
Being afraid of fear is a contradiction in itself. Rather, it's the fact that humans enjoy fear. If it were not so, children wouldn't love horror stories.
Only the right fear can heal the mind and remove other types of fear. That's the fear of doing something harmful to others; the fear of not being meaningful in the dealings of life; the fear of loving the transient; the fear of not being useful to others; the fear of being unethical; the fear of not believing that the entire universe, seen and unseen, known and unknown, past present and future, is somehow or other a unified whole and that I have my own responsibility for every part of it. If the right fear occupies the right place in the mind, then, even if there happens to be a feeling of uneasiness in the beginning, sometimes culminating in a kind of temporary psychological disease, a time will soon come when the mind will escape all limitations and fear. Then only love and compassion will abide in it. Then the true enjoyment will start.
Fear is a function of the individual's genetic make-up, the environment they were brought up in, their personal experiences and knowledge, their values and past actions, and their concept of life. But, hopefully, all types of fear can be reset and thus removed. However, it will take only months for some while two or three years for those who are sensitive to fear of one kind or other on the verge of a chronic disease. The process is very simple and proven. The first patient on whom I have applied the technique is myself.
When I was a child I was so timid that I even couldn't go to toilet alone at night. Every night I had dreams full of horror. I had acrophobia (fear of high places) and agoraphobia (fear of crowds and open spaces). I grew up with all these diseases only to discover later on that all my family members had some disease of this kind. In a word, mine is a timid family. I had to face the most embarrassing situation when my heart rate went up abnormally. I could easily feel that I shouldn't get so much afraid of such a simple thing but I couldn't help it. Finding no other way, I used to put my right hand on my chest, in the hope of saving the heart from going out of 'control'. However, for reasons unknown to me till then, this technique worked. It was not until my initiation into intense spiritual practice that I found a solution to the problem. However, the disease culminated in a kind of psychosis when, as a result of my spiritual practice, I began to be aware of the fact that I was going to get transformed little by little, probably into a dead body. The remembrance of death and my past life brought about a vortex of diverse psychological forces in my mind. In the beginning the solution became more unbearable to me than any events that I had so long considered problems. I can't even tell how many times I had to visit the heart hospitals and how much money I spent, only to learn every time that I had no heart problem. Now I know that if it hadn't been for my desire to seek the truth through the practice of Sufism, I wouldn't have taken so long a time to recover. For the deeper I wanted to reach in the mind, the more fear I had to encounter. Even my physical health degenerated into such a dilapidated condition that a part of my left leg seemed to have died and remained so for more than three years. During four to five years, I continuously had the feeling of being physically burned inside and clear symptoms of the sensation sprouted all over my eyes, face, and body. But, surprisingly, there was no pathological trace of any problem whatever, except repeated infection in the throat. As the mind became hyperactive due to the transforming spiritual practice, there arose the problem of nausea, acidity, constipation, and a quake-like spasm in the body time and again. Every second I had to remember death, even in my sleep and dreams. Sleep evaporated from my eyes and head. However, after a certain stage of the problems, the reverse condition prevailed for some time excessive sleep and a feeling of exhaustion.
I could realize that there was a drastic change in my mind but there was no concomitant change in my lifestyle, a mismatch that created the problems. Then I started eating less, sleeping less, and talking less and doing all types of work to keep the mind balanced. Now I'm grateful to God that He gave me the excessive fear. If I had been bold, I might have done things destructive to others and myself. The fire that was in me was supposed to burn me only, and that it has been doing, but it might have burned the whole society if I hadn't happened to suppress it because of too much fear.
Being the youngest son of a Sufi master of a small, poor village in Bangladesh, I was taught to love all and never to hate any specific human being for anything whatever. I was taught to speak well and behave well with people of other religions, especially Hindus, as there were no people of any other religious group around there. Father used to say, Whether you are a Muslim will be clear from how you behave with the non-Muslims. Though we have been observing numerous events both on the national and the international levels that clearly arouse doubt about the Islam of the people concerned, I never saw any exception in his life. Nearly half of the people of the village he lived in were Hindus, and all Hindus loved and trusted him so much that very few Muslims those of a religious leader sort liked him, if at all.
Because I was taught to tolerate others' misbehavior, and also to love their good behavior, I had to suppress my own feelings, however angry or sad I was. And this responsibility would have seemed to be an unbearable burden on me if I hadn't been timid. Time and again the timidity verged on cowardice, I admit, but this weakness also proved to be a boon. Still now I don't have any personal enemy.
Your fear can save you. It can also make you bold. If you fear the right thing, then other wrong things will fear you and admire you. Do the following analytical meditation.
Analytical Meditation
Say to yourself:
Why has life been given to me?
It has been given to me so that I can overcome death.
And why has death been made for me? It has been made for me so that I can overcome the limitations of life.
Life is defined by death and death by life.
One is the raw material for the other.
I will not wait for any death coming in search of me speedily like a selective Search Engine on the Internet.
I've already embraced it because I can't live if I don't do so.
I'm not afraid of losing anything because nothing is greater than I am.
I'm not obsessed by the thought of getting anything, for my mind is not a vacuum that needs to be filled up by material things.
If I do want anything, then I want happiness and sorrows, poverty and affluence, problems and solutions, disease and health power and weakness.
I want happiness for others and sorrows for me,
so that eventually they share my sorrows with me and sell their happiness to me in exchange for my sorrows.
I want poverty
If I don't find myself inflicted by it then I'll find one who is in it and rescue that person.
I'm not afraid to fight the battle of life.
If I've nothing to fight against then I'm not important at all.
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