How can I make it a priority for my girlfriend to exercise and eat right??
Question: Over the past year, my girlfriend has gained a lot of weight. She has a body mass index of 37, which is considered obese. The odd thing is, when we see people that are really big in public, sometimes she'll make a comment like, wow she's big . Here I am thinking she's being slightly hippocritical.
The fact is, i'm worried about her health. She's predisposed to Diabetes, as her father has it and she is overweight, which are two large risk factors in getting the disease. A doctor appointment informed her that she was borderline diabetes and that she has high blood pressure. Still that wasn't enough for her to change her diet nor did she want to exercise.
How can I make her realize it's becoming extremely important for her to start a new healthy diet and exercise regimen? I've told her straight up before, but that hasn't motivated her enough. What can I do to make her act? I'm tired of her playing russian roulette with her risk of Diabetes..
Answers: Why don't you start cooking healthy and ask her to start walking with you after dinner. Or ask her if she would consider be your gym buddy . I would also at some point talk to her, explain that you love her and care for her and you never want to see her hurt. You are worried about her health and pre diabetes. And the #1 Killer for women is yes, heart disease and this is cause being overweight. Love her support her and tell her that a relationship is you being her strengh when she is weak and vise versa. The time is now...
Well I hate to say this but you can't MAKE anyone lose weight.. Until she wants to do it, and is ready to do it then you have to deal with it!!
I can tell you what NOT to do...my ex wasnt happy with my 130 frame and wanted me down to 105...but while hes saying this he was atleast 50 lbs overweight. Nagging, making negative comments, and being pushy is not the way to go. Are you leading by example...what are your eating and exercise habbits. Pushing her to exercise and eat right will do no good if you're not doing the same.
It might sound mean, but get personal -- ask her if she really wants to go through the same thing as her father. Let her know flat out that you're not so much concerned about her appearance as her health, that you want to keep her around and healthy. Also make sure she knows that you'll be there for her even during the hardest parts: it's essential she knows she's got your support.
But really, it ultimately has to be her decision. You obviously can't *make* her change if she doesn't want to. But that doesn't mean you can't keep on her until she admits that she needs to make some changes if she doesn't want to develop some major health issues later in life.
Where do we start? I think I am concerned that you know her BMI is 37. Who knows that? Someone who is way to interested in health. Don't you think your obsession with weight has her feeling bad about herself? I mean how will she ever get to the point where you are happy with her? How can she win?
Here's a thought, if you love someone it better be for who they are and not what they look like. Some people would call that shallow. What if she developed cancer? How would you handle that?
Some people on the other hand are genetically predisposed to be what the world may call overweight. Some people are going to get lung cancer even if they don't smoke!
It is scary to think about how many people make major mistakes in their life by getting involved with mates who aren't exactly what they want. I suppose you can change her? If you think that you are crazy. Are you that much of a control freak? Is your way the only best way to live? Give her a break, relax about her weight and stop talking about it. Maybe she will start to feel better about herself and want to change for herself, not to fit a picture you have in your mind.
i would say that you should find stories of people who have died with this disease,
it might make her realize that she could die or be in serious pain,
tell her that you don't want to lose her, & that you love her.
The fact is, i'm worried about her health. She's predisposed to Diabetes, as her father has it and she is overweight, which are two large risk factors in getting the disease. A doctor appointment informed her that she was borderline diabetes and that she has high blood pressure. Still that wasn't enough for her to change her diet nor did she want to exercise.
How can I make her realize it's becoming extremely important for her to start a new healthy diet and exercise regimen? I've told her straight up before, but that hasn't motivated her enough. What can I do to make her act? I'm tired of her playing russian roulette with her risk of Diabetes..
Answers: Why don't you start cooking healthy and ask her to start walking with you after dinner. Or ask her if she would consider be your gym buddy . I would also at some point talk to her, explain that you love her and care for her and you never want to see her hurt. You are worried about her health and pre diabetes. And the #1 Killer for women is yes, heart disease and this is cause being overweight. Love her support her and tell her that a relationship is you being her strengh when she is weak and vise versa. The time is now...
Well I hate to say this but you can't MAKE anyone lose weight.. Until she wants to do it, and is ready to do it then you have to deal with it!!
I can tell you what NOT to do...my ex wasnt happy with my 130 frame and wanted me down to 105...but while hes saying this he was atleast 50 lbs overweight. Nagging, making negative comments, and being pushy is not the way to go. Are you leading by example...what are your eating and exercise habbits. Pushing her to exercise and eat right will do no good if you're not doing the same.
It might sound mean, but get personal -- ask her if she really wants to go through the same thing as her father. Let her know flat out that you're not so much concerned about her appearance as her health, that you want to keep her around and healthy. Also make sure she knows that you'll be there for her even during the hardest parts: it's essential she knows she's got your support.
But really, it ultimately has to be her decision. You obviously can't *make* her change if she doesn't want to. But that doesn't mean you can't keep on her until she admits that she needs to make some changes if she doesn't want to develop some major health issues later in life.
Where do we start? I think I am concerned that you know her BMI is 37. Who knows that? Someone who is way to interested in health. Don't you think your obsession with weight has her feeling bad about herself? I mean how will she ever get to the point where you are happy with her? How can she win?
Here's a thought, if you love someone it better be for who they are and not what they look like. Some people would call that shallow. What if she developed cancer? How would you handle that?
Some people on the other hand are genetically predisposed to be what the world may call overweight. Some people are going to get lung cancer even if they don't smoke!
It is scary to think about how many people make major mistakes in their life by getting involved with mates who aren't exactly what they want. I suppose you can change her? If you think that you are crazy. Are you that much of a control freak? Is your way the only best way to live? Give her a break, relax about her weight and stop talking about it. Maybe she will start to feel better about herself and want to change for herself, not to fit a picture you have in your mind.
i would say that you should find stories of people who have died with this disease,
it might make her realize that she could die or be in serious pain,
tell her that you don't want to lose her, & that you love her.
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